I’m grateful for heartbreak
I’m grateful for heartbreak. Go out there and get your heart broken as often as you can.
So why am I so enamoured with heartbreak? Well, there are a few reasons. Heartbreak is the perfect contrast to make you truly appreciate happiness and fulfillment. And every time I’ve gotten my heart broken, I dove into personal development, emotional education, and personal understanding and became a stronger and better person than before the heartbreak. A broken heart is one of those injuries that if dealt with in a positive way makes you stronger than before… kind of like weight training. When you lift weights you are actually damaging your muscles, ripping and tearing the muscle fibers apart. It’s during the healing process after the weight training session that your muscles rebuild themselves stronger than they were before. This is how I view heartbreak. As many of you know, I foster and train dogs for my local rescue group. Most of the dogs that come to me have come for horrible, abusive or neglectful pasts and they are on death row in a kill shelter. So many people ask me how I can bear to see such suffering over and over. Well for starters, it’s not about me or my feelings. It’s about doing the right thing that’s in the best interest of a dog in desperate need. So my feelings (emotions) have become educated on how to behave/think/process. Secondly, I do allow my heart to break for every single one of them. It’s only by becoming personally invested in each dog that I can give them 200% of my best effort. I approach every dog as if it were my own. I feel the pain and the sorrow for what they are going through… but I don’t pity them for it and I don’t dwell on it. If I were to constantly feel sorry for them, the dog would constantly feel sorry for himself and never move on. He would remain stuck in that awful lonely headspace. It’s like when a little kid falls down and then looks to his parents to see how he should react. If the parents don’t fuss the kid usually gets up and just keeps playing. But if the parents fuss and give pity, the kid usually starts to cry because his parents are telling him through their actions that something is wrong and that he should feel sorry for himself. So by not feeling sorry for these dogs and by not dwelling on their pasts, they learn to trust me, let go of their pasts, and move forward into a healthier space. We don’t look backwards in training. We always move forwards. The only thing looking backwards ever did for anyone was give them a sore neck. Happy training my friends:)